The idea that you've been holding it together for everyone, and maybe nobody has asked how you're actually doing lately. This thought was the beginning of a longer conversation about healing, and What Progress Actually Looks Like is where that conversation continues. Because what I couldn't fit in a caption is this: healing doesn't look the way we think it's supposed to and that gap between expectation and reality may be one of the loneliest parts of the whole process.

Overfunctioning exists on a spectrum with underfunctioning — and in any relationship system (marriage, family, workplace), these roles tend to be complementary. When one person overfunctions, another typically underfunctions. Neither is at fault. Both are responding to the same underlying dynamic.

What therapy actually helps high-functioning people with A lot of high-performing people rule out therapy because they don’t believe they’re struggling “enough.” They’re managing. They’re functioning. They’re keeping it together. But managing is not the same as thriving. Functioning is not the same as feeling okay. And keeping it together is not the same as being at peace.